Things to Do When Someone is Staring at You

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Herro. (Note: This image is not mine.)

People like to stare at you for a number of reasons. They like the way you look, they don’t like the way you look, you have something on your face, etcetera. I found myself in this somewhat awkward situation not long ago, as I was standing in line at the bank to deposit a rather puny check of mine. I felt the eyes of another crawling up and down my frame, from the corner to the left of me. With a quick glance I saw her, and then focused my attention to the back of the balding head in front of me. I still felt her eyes. She was waiting for her obnoxious grandmother to dump her life savings into the coin-counting machine.ย I soon passed my deposit slip and check to the teller, took my receipt, and turned around. My eyes met the young woman’s, and what did I do? I smiled. Lame, I know. I should have done one of the following.

Wink. They won’t see this coming, and will be aware that you know they were staring. They’ll most likely force a quick laugh, ย flush with embarrassment, and be done with it. Or maybe this can backfire and they’ll mistake your flick of an eye as a signal to initiate some small talk. It depends on who this person is. Use your judgment.

Have a staring contest. Hold your gaze. Don’t submit to them, even if your eyes are drying up. Fight the blink. You’re better than them.

Pose, pretend to be a model. They won’t expect this from their eye candy. Flaunt it.

Make the craziest face you can possibly make at that moment. Scare them off, you lunatic. They won’t know what to do, but I can guarantee that their eyes will roam elsewhere. That, or they’ll keep their eyes shut for days. This will be especially funny if you make eye contact while creating your monstrous facial expression.

Give them the thumbs-up. Aw. They were praising your body with their eyes. How nice. Let them know you appreciate their existence.

Point, gasp, and run. This will teach them that staring is indeed very rude. Make sure to glance back a few times as you’re sprinting away. After a few seconds, steady your pace and act as if nothing happened.

Flip the bird. This one is daring, but they will most likely be speechless. Or not. (Warning: this may turn violent.)

94 comments

  1. pouringmyartout · January 21, 2013

    Okay, that’s funny. I was going to go with ‘start picking your nose and then pulling your finger out and examining it carefuly’…

    • simply.xx.potato · November 2, 2018

      nice XD

    • Corneliu · January 8

      How about taking out the smartphone and taking a picture of the person who is staring?

  2. Nicole · January 21, 2013

    I thought about adding ‘pick your nose.’ Thanks for the gross suggestion. That would definitely have them looking elsewhere. I would think.

  3. ecofinanalysis · January 22, 2013

    A beautiful face is a silent commendation!

    • Nicole · January 24, 2013

      That’s true, but doing something with it as someone is admiring it from afar would be pretty funny.

      • Joshy Wellerd · January 30, 2017

        I think i know why the look, you’re attractive

      • Nicole DiGiose · August 26, 2017

        Thanks! ^_^ Maybe, maybe not!

      • Irene Stamelos · September 19, 2017

        Similar situation happened to me this morning as I was standing waiting for my bus the X17 pulls up waiting to pick annoying passengers this woman suddenly kept looking at me and staring I really got very scared next time I.am taking pictures next time.

      • Nicole DiGiose · December 31, 2017

        Hm. Maybe she was jealous. I would have winked! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  4. Kirsten Lopresti · January 22, 2013

    Funny!

  5. westafricanprincess · January 30, 2013

    LOOOOL…I actually do some of these…..except the last 3.. I only wish I was so daring

  6. Nicole · January 30, 2013

    Ha ha. That’s awesome. Thanks for reading!

  7. mstizzle · January 30, 2013

    LOL! Seriously Nicole. Permission to reblog this?

    • Nicole · January 31, 2013

      Of course, Tizzle! I’m glad you like it! ^_^

  8. mstizzle · January 31, 2013

    Reblogged this on Tizzle's voice and commented:
    Hey blogfam!
    Goodnews!! Forget being squirmish and uncomfortable when someone stares at you.
    Nicole is here with several funny/cool.cute things you can do.
    Feel free to add more and thank her later! LOL!!
    Mmmwah!!

  9. eya · February 5, 2013

    Just do a little *Tongue out* to the one staring!

    • Nicole · February 5, 2013

      That works too!

      • Mackenzie · March 12, 2019

        I would kiss and move my eyebrows up and down, one guy laughed and pointed at me, 5 pairs of eyes were staring at me after that guy pointed

  10. Tim Pepper · August 24, 2014

    She was just jealous.

  11. Travis · February 25, 2015

    I used to pick my bellybutton if i caught someone staring at me then look closely at the lint

  12. r vd · April 27, 2015

    Lol I’m still laughing, Great article!

  13. Anon · October 1, 2015

    People stare at me all the time. I’m a certified ugly so i don’t have to wonder about the reasons for the staring.It s still incredibly annoying, I either ignore, turn my head and cough, give them a look of disapproval, and occasionally I have flipped the bird(lol) usually their response is to keep staring at me, or they pull a look of disgust at me(if they’re not already!) And quite a few men have flipped the bird right back at me. I must state it is usually men and teenage girls that stare at me, although occasionally a woman will. I think men are very judgemental and obsessed with appearances, they also see ugly women as sub-human,so that’s why it’s mainly them that stare!

    • Nicole DiGiose · October 3, 2015

      There is beauty within everyone. We’re children of the stars, after all. And some of us have eyeballs that like to stare. Nice work. ^_^

  14. Sirina · October 4, 2015

    uhh!! when I find someone staring at me I look at them in a way as if to say,” What’s your problem?”. But they whisper something to their friends, and one by one each of the friends turn back to look at me. Uhhhh!! that’s really annoying!

  15. Hibaaq · November 7, 2015

    I going to school and there’s this just one guy who will stare at me as we go to our different classes. I really don’t bother to figure out why or if he was looking at someone else. When our eyes meet I look at him for 5 seconds maybe even less than that and i immediately look down. I really want him to stop. I’m mean I’m flattered and all but I’m not that pretty compared to all of the other girls in my school. Plus, he’s like really hot i guess you can say not that im staring at him. And i had this really awkward meeting with him when a mutal friend i guess you can say intoduced him as the guy version of hi and my response was do that guy nod and say sup. of course he responded with the guy nod too and then me being the stupid shy idiot looked down and yeah. So im going to try these actually all of them until he stops becuase its sooo uncomfortable becuase I HAVE NO IDEA WTF I AM SUPPOSE TO DO WHEN HE GIVES THAT LOOK/STARE. Its actually more of a look that’s like one that he’s trying t figure you out. Sorry this turned to my life story jk. I am sooooooo glad you posted this because I really need this. Fingers crossed that this works! THANK YOU SO MUCH AGAIN.

    • Nicole DiGiose · May 30, 2016

      ๐Ÿ˜‰ I’m glad you got so much out of this post. I hope this experiment went over well.

    • ashlin · May 5, 2019

      Your story is sooo interesting!! I defiently want to know more. A hot guy is staring at you….he must think youre attractive!!

  16. rashaad · November 15, 2015

    Ask them what the h*** their looking at.

  17. Paige · May 11, 2016

    Say take a picture it will last longer๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ“ธ

    • Nicole DiGiose · May 11, 2016

      Yeah, that’s always a good one. ๐Ÿ˜‰

      • Christiana · December 2, 2016

        please I have a friend that usually stares at me badly and really I don’t know what to insinuate…christie

      • Nicole DiGiose · January 12, 2017

        I think being funny (like the suggestions here) about it is an interesting way to go, and should give you some answers. Maybe your friend thinks you’re cute!

    • Bastet · March 27, 2017

      Or better yet, take a picture of *them*! If confronted, say “I always take a pictures of weirdos staring at me!” For extra weirdness you can add “you know, in case police finds my body”

    • STILLSMILING · December 5, 2017

      I love this comment

  18. Elena · May 29, 2016

    I like the staring back and have done it, but always felt like I should have held it for longer and gone stronger. I think that gets the message of what are you staring at!?
    Tongue out might work but it depends, I don’t want to send a wrong message.
    Have tried the usual approach, starring contest not included, of asking Do you see something. Interesting , Can I help you? And found the Caan I Hell you to be best of all! People get caught off guard not expecting that you noticed they staring at you and many times act like normal stupid person as they are and turn away for not having a come back answer.

    P

    • Nicole DiGiose · May 29, 2016

      Hahaha. Catching people off guard over something silly is always humorous. Thanks for reading!

  19. Danielle · June 7, 2016

    Lol glad I came to this page โ˜บ

  20. cmanweb · August 1, 2016

    Lol funny article..

    People who stare is a pet peeve of mine and it aggravates me pretty badly depending on the person’s demeanor.

    Usually when someone stares, in my personal experience it’s because they want to intimidate or annoy me, which is a bad idea because I’m a pretty unstable person with anger issues, I’m also not afraid of anything.

    Although, here’s a civil way of handling this situation: Stare at the person while walking towards them, then say ”Hey do I know you? You’ve been starring at me for a while and you look familiar.”. Say this in a friendly way and it’ll catch them off guard. In my experience they usually just act surprised, say no and apologize.

    • Nicole DiGiose · August 13, 2016

      Well that always works, and probably makes the starer feel super awkward! Ah well. ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks for reading!

  21. Elaine Wigfall · September 3, 2016

    It’s just that like I talk to people right sometimes I get shy around hot guys especially since I am a junior in high school so I sit in the front of my class the tables are like in a L shape and I sit in the front on the side so I get nervous and tense because I feel like the whole class is staring at me and I don’t know where to look at. But yeah I tell myself ‘oh they are just staring cause your so gorgeous’ but I just want to be able to feel calm and relaxed what should I do?

    • Nicole DiGiose · September 6, 2016

      Keep thinking you’re gorgeous and be confident. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Also, do something silly. That’ll break the tension.

  22. Bridget · September 10, 2016

    I had to look this up because the other day, I walked into a dr. office and this girl standing at the desk wearing a very revealing, strange outfit looked back at me, then looked me up and down (you could tell she was all about attention, she had a half top sweater on and it was about 80 degrees outside). No one else in the office was even looking at me (of course because people don’t do that and I certainly wasn’t wearing a clown suit). Fair enough. The receptionist asked me to fill out paperwork, so I went to the desk, got the sheet and the girl was looking right at me (head turned in my direction for no reason). So (and this is what I always do), I turned my head and stared directly at her intensely (not blinking). She got really uncomfortable. I do this to people when they stare for whatever reason. Did this to a staring child once in a grocery line…we stared each other down and then he cracked a smile and so did I…that was actually funny.

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  25. Cal · November 17, 2016

    I live in Asia and get stared at constantly for being a foreigner. I don’t think any of these would phase them seeing as they already look at me like i’m an alien x). Thanks for sharing though!

    • Nicole DiGiose · January 12, 2017

      Hey Cal,

      Maybe being funny about it will come in handy. ^_^

  26. claireydingdongbell · December 29, 2016

    Thank you so very much. You are helping me right this minute. So im size plus but in a cafe sat at a 2 seater table.. Just had a right laugh with lady who serObviously on o e chair… And flicked my eyes up to see couple staring at me…him and her. I sipped my coffee looked up again and they’re still staring. So Googled what to fo and got you. Thanks everyone!!! As me laughing and smiling at your texts i can tell is peeing them off…yo point she’s now trying to get his atention. What can i say? Think he fancies me… And the mrs jealous !!! :0))

    • Nicole DiGiose · August 26, 2017

      I’m happy you found the situation humorous! Laughter is the best medicine. Thanks for reading!

  27. Adam · January 15, 2017

    I tend to glare at people under my eyes if I catch them staring at me, kinda how you can imagine a psychopath doing it, and I maintain that stare until they look away. I usually find it doesn’t take long, but I’ve been told I look quite intimidating when I’m annoyed, and being stared at does annoy me so I guess that helps.

    • Nicole DiGiose · January 19, 2017

      That sounds a bit uncomfortable to be on the other side of that stare!

  28. Miriam · February 8, 2017

    So just now I was laughing at all the comments and saw my sister staring at me so I gave her a thumbs up and she gave me an ugly face and told me I look like a dunce

  29. Jolene · June 12, 2017

    if im gonna do it, it still wont work cause he sits next to me and keeps starring at me and looks every 5 min. what im doing

    • Nicole DiGiose · August 26, 2017

      Sounds like someone is admiring you!

    • Privacy · April 29, 2019

      Wow that’s really up close and personal in my case mine lives across the street from me and told me that she can see me flight from her living room chair has it sitting in the middle of her window and halfway to the front door every time I open my door or open my windows she’s gazing over here if I go to my car she, lift herself up for word from her chair to get a good look at who’s coming in my house who’s going out my house who’s getting in my car when I’m leaving waiting to see when I pull up what I’m taking out of my car geez can somebody have some privacy I actually cover my bags with trash bags I don’t understand what is so important to her that she has to see and watch everything that I do it even got as bad as her calling me on the phone telling me who was at my front door what they look like what they’re driving there is a difference in being watched when someone is watching your character or someone is watching because they like you in a good way but I find it to be pure jealousy when they’re doing or trying to do everything that you do and cannot succeed and the way you’ve done it who wrote that song I always feel like somebody’s watching me I don’t have no privacy

  30. Daniel Bain · June 14, 2017

    if i catch someone staring at me in class i sometimes blow snot all over the table ad run away. LOL :p

  31. esther · July 14, 2017

    errr

  32. Maria · September 9, 2017

    Lol loved the pointing with gasping one ๐Ÿ˜‚ thanks for posting as i felt i am the only one who faces this and i get annoyed so much by it especially most stares are other girls glaring at me and giving me mean looks.

    • Nicole DiGiose · December 31, 2017

      It’s a funny but small effort. Thanks for reading!

  33. Nathan Wells · September 21, 2017

    When someone stare at you just tell them tf you looking at or are you ok with a smile and if that doesn’t work that means you just ugly asf……๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

  34. Rachel E. · December 30, 2017

    I really liked the โ€œpoint, gasp, and runโ€ one. It made my laugh so hard! I also liked the thumbs up one. Itโ€™s a smart thing to do if someone stares at you! Great job on all the options! ๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป

    • Nicole DiGiose · December 31, 2017

      I’m happy this made you laugh! Spread the happiness. Thanks for reading!

    • Nicole DiGiose · December 31, 2017

      There’s always unsuspected fun to be had!

      • Rachel E. · January 18, 2018

        Lol, I agree, especially with people staring at you sometimes! I think that if you do something funny when someone is staring at you, they would probably laugh and smile and then go away. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  35. Ridhwano · March 2, 2018

    I get stared a lot in my life and I am not comfortable about it I should make a staring contest thats interesting

    • Nicole DiGiose · March 5, 2018

      Perhaps other humans are admiring you from afar. Turn it into fun and make a kooky face! ๐Ÿ™‚

      • Ridh Wano · March 15, 2018

        Make kooky or cookies face haha

      • Ridh Wano · March 15, 2018

        And you are beautiful too

  36. Josh Adams · June 10, 2018

    I hate it when girls stare at me! It annoys the living crap out of me! If I see them stareing at me, I quickly look away and move on, though Iโ€™m very anoyed.

  37. Corina · June 15, 2018

    These are funny, but i wouldn’t dare do the last one lol!

  38. Corina · June 22, 2018

    I was at the bus station and this homeless guy kept staring at me so I held a staring contest not turning away for what seemed like forever then he looked away and I looked away. Then he did it again again started staring again then I held another staring contest he looked away again. Then he kept on going it, it just kept getting creepier and creepier so finally just ignored it. I think there was probably something wrong with him mentally.

  39. Jake liggett · December 8, 2018

    I like to walk up to them and say, “when I was in prison, staring at someone was a good way to get killed. Are you feeling suicidal today?”

  40. Mackenzie · March 12, 2019

    Nicole, you have been replying for years

  41. Aurora · June 9, 2019

    I used to always do the staring contest thing but now I got this tick where my neck sorta spasms and my head very obviously twitches to the side. This always happens when I know someone is staring and I don’t want them to know how nervous they’re making me. I love the strike a pose one and make a face and gasp and run away they’re SO FUNNY!! If I had the guts I think I’d just stop in my tracks and give them a bewildered look and say ‘you can see me?’ or take my invisalign out and chew on it while staring at them. And continue for a while after theyve looked away. I just wish I didn’t have that stupid tick I could have so much fun with this

  42. ssc · July 8, 2019

    We just recently went on a trip in a private bus full of friends and family, there is this single guy in our friends group, who kept on making a prolonged eye contact with me when no one was looking. I found it quite awkward, as if he was trying to tell me something. that was so weird. I am married with 2 teen age kids, I look quite young for my age though and very outgoing. we were all playing games etc & he was constantly trying to look into my eyes to the point where it was embarrassing. He would change his seat and make sure to sit in front of me and keep looking at me. even later anytime I looked in the back to talk to someone and found him looking at me.
    I was talking to everyone in the group earlier but when noticed his constant eye contact with me, I stopped having any conversations. My husband was in the front with other guys.
    Any suggestions what to do & should I talk to him about it, he is part of friends group, we gather almost every weekend.

  43. ssc4914 · July 9, 2019

    I am married & 2 teen age kids. I look quite young though for my age.
    Recently we went on a bus full of 55 ppl, friends and family all the way to NJ. There is this single young men who is also part of the friends group kept on making eye contact with me for prolonged period of time. it was a long bus ride so we were all playing games, singing songs etc. and all that time he will make sure he sits where he can see me and kept on making eye contact, as if trying to grab my attention.
    I was ignoring him as much as possible but it was so awkward.
    my husband was sitting in the front with other guys and I was with my other friends in the back.
    we have another get together where I will see him again this weekend too, any suggestion how to react to this. what is awkward is that we know him and he talks to my husband all the time, I didnt tell my husband about it.

  44. themtheystayre · July 26, 2019

    Oh my gossshhh it seems like I would get staired at all places all the time UGGHH and its so weird impolite and horrible! I know its written in books that we USA and canada we find it rude to stare its unsettling and we don’t know WHAT TO DO WHEN THEY KEEP STAIRING UGGHH! (Its like half my twenties i was sad or worried about why and i would ask friends or parents or boyfriend if anything is wrong with me or if I’m ugly or fat (on a side note I think fat people don’t get staired at if I tried to be weirdo and staired at fat faces I would dye right away because oh damn way too ugly and way too fat but somehow they feel on cloud seven? ) please note that ugly girls don’t get staired at, it’s true take notice, pretty girls are polite and then get staired by all, the thing to do when someone stairs at you is to quickly drop your face and make a rude face and a spit sound, they NEED ATTENTION THEY CRAVE ATTENTION. (ALSO please note that from others sayings n readings on the surfing the net and personal experiences, (the uglees they stair so much all the time, readings on the internet n friends n fam would be like those damm Latinos they stair SO MUCH its provocative and some friends would be like no its blacks they always stair and they have the rudest face mean looks flared nostrils and they looking at you one hour with mean looks and some was saying those people they keep stayring because they never went to school, and they are SO paranoid from friends n coworkers comments say something nice they start yelling with a nasty attitude (and some said asians are the most horrible stair so much!) People they stair it means they didnt go to school thwy are horrible rude impolite they all have that in common those stairing people they don’t go to school don’t work they don’t have a job and they said you are rude because you don’t want to look at them and they know they don’t look human, he asked them why they stair. Classmates n friends said oh those blacks they cannot stop stayring and all the comments that they are not human yet. hhhhhhhhhh its not about the color. don’t staired.

  45. Mike · August 31, 2019

    I have a few that most people don’t even think of even though most are rather obvious. They also don’t invite a negative response. Here they are:

    Say hello, smile or wave. Also, you can do a little dance(dancing in one spot without moving your feet just your upper body). If they smile or laugh then they lost the staring contest. Also, even though it falls into the category of negative you could just shake your head.

  46. soumya · September 17, 2019

    please do reply….. And please do read the whole story aka real life incident….HELP ME!!!!.
    this happens with me all the time:
    There is a grocery store in neighbourhood…and the owner is a nice man,though. Two men work with him. One of them minds his buisness but the other person is the villain. That person (the villain) has a eye problem in which one of his eye pupil is slant….means not straight like normal person. So whenever I go there.. he would stare a me with a creepy look which I hate. Even when I am with my friends. One day while it was raining heavily, I and my bro went to that shop to buy some school pens for exams. I was waiting outside and I was calling my bro…that psycho was coming near me and just then smiled (or smilingly). I was calling my bro….why he has to come????

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